DANGEROUS MAN QUIZZES—Are you at risk? 

Take the quizzes and see! If you are, find put what you can do to change your odds AND YOUR CHOICES! 

Women who are in dangerous relationships often have to manipulate reality in order to see their situation differently so they are able to stay in it. Women who are repeatedly in dangerous relationships have an arsenal of ‘loopholes’ they use to talk themselves into remaining in a go-nowhere dangerous relationship. 

In order to change your patterns, it is important you know what kind of loopholes you are using to avoid change, growth, and ending the relationship. These loopholes become a sort of ‘mantra’ that women say over and over to
themselves either consciously, or subconsciously. It slowly reinforces their decision to stay despite the red flags they are having about these choices. 

Some women have gathered sabotaging loopholes from what she thinks the culture expects of women in relationships. Some women have learned these excuses from
other females in their own family who have taught her to accept dangerous behavior in others (or men).

8 Categories of Loopholes 

* Minimizing Loopholes

* Generalizing Loopholes

* Justifying Loopholes

* Hyper-Hopefulness Loopholes

* Messiah Complex Loopholes

* Over-Crediting Loopholes

* Renaming Loopholes

* Future Avoidance Loopholes 

TAKE THE MINIMIZING LOOPHOLE QUIZ BELOW 

These loopholes take dangerous or unsatisfactory behaviors and make them less threatening my minimizing their true effects. This loophole is characterized by someone saying, “At least he…”

Check all that apply

AT LEAST he only drinks beer and not the hard stuff

AT LEAST he doesn’t hit me, he only yells, threatens, or degrades me

AT LEAST he works most of the time

AT LEAST he isn’t like my dad/brother/previous boyfriend

AT LEAST he comes home at night/dates me/is still around

AT LEAST he pays my bills

AT LEAST he doesn’t beat my children

AT LEAST he is someone to have around until someone better comes along

AT LEAST he

ADD UP TOTAL NUMBER OF POINTS

 ** Women who use Minimizing Loopholes normally use many of the other categories of loopholes also. What OTHER categories do you use? Find out—order the book and workbook and take the tests—find out exactly what you are telling yourself. 

AM I IN DANGER OF DATING *MORE* DANGEROUS MEN? 

Give yourself 2 points for a ‘Yes’ answer, 0 point for a ‘No’ answer. 

I have dated more than one man that others would have considered ‘dangerous’ 

**I have dated more than three dangerous men 

**I have dated five or more dangerous men 

I have broken up and gone back with a dangerous man 

**A dangerous man I dated would have fallen in the ‘violent’ category

**A dangerous man I dated would have fallen in a combination of categories
of violent, addicted, and mentally ill 

A dangerous man I dated would have fallen in the mentally ill category 

I have a pattern of ignoring my red flags 

**Ignoring my red flags has put me at-risk with dangerous men  

I don’t even know what my red flags are 

Friends and family are upset over the types of dangerous men I pick 

I don’t know what healthy relationship patterns are 

I fluctuate between men who are emotionally unavailable and aloof to men
who are dependent, needy and clingy 

I don’t fluctuate in the type of men I date—I keep picking the same type
of man, even though it hasn’t worked in the past 

ADD UP THE TOTAL NUMBER OF POINTS

NOW ADD UP YOUR TOTAL NUMBER OF POINTS FROM BOTH SECTIONS

 In considering your own personal risk factors for dating dangerous men you must also consider WHICH answer you checked on the scale which indicate a HIGHER risk and should raise greater concern if these were marked. Any of those with an ‘*’ indicate higher risk factors. 

The Dangerous Man Risk Scale (Non-clinical scale) 

0 – 8 points =
Lower Risk (unless you have marked those questions with an **.) 

10 – 18 points
= Moderate Risk (unless you marked those questions with an **.) 

20 – 32 points
= High Risk (exceptionally high risk if you also marked those questions
with an **.) 

More quizzes like this one are in the How to Spot a Dangerous Man Workbook. There are also additional quizzes on this website under ‘Books & Products.’

 If you indicated a ‘Moderate’ to ‘High Risk’ on this quiz, you owe it to yourself to get the WORKBOOK and/or Phone Counseling sessions to give you the opportunity to decipher your own personal patterns of dangerous selection.